References from your past
People change. stays.
Ask the people who were there.
Your former friends, coworkers, bosses and partners saw things no résumé or profile can show. AsktheX turns what they saw firsthand into a story you approve: lessons from your past that make your next chapter stronger, and a reference the people meeting you next can trust.
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From a former coworker · Email verified
Above all, Priya describes Maya as dependable and steady under pressure. As a coworker, Maya delivered quality work and helped teammates without being asked.
“Give her context early and she’ll take the hardest ticket on the board.”
Approved by Maya before anyone else could see it.
Every X sees a different you.
An X is anyone from your past: a former friend, coworker, employer, roommate, teammate or partner. They rate what they saw firsthand, from Never to Always: 8 questions about character, plus questions made for that relationship.
Above all, Priya describes Maya as dependable and steady under pressure. Every time, Maya did what she said she would do.
As a coworker, Maya delivered quality work and helped teammates without being asked.
Priya would recommend Maya as a coworker. Priya would gladly work with Maya again.
“Give her context early and she’ll take the hardest ticket on the board.”
Priya · former coworker · Email verifiedDemonstration only. These people and answers are fictional.
Every X becomes a book
Their answers, bound into a flip book.
Each X answers a short, researched survey about character and the role you shared, then adds a note in their own words. AsktheX writes it into a story. Approve it and it becomes a book you can share by private link.
Dani on Maya
Former friend · 2012–2021
Maya Kessler
- Former friend
- 2012–2021
- Approved March 2026
Three steps. No ambush.
You invite your X
Send a private link to someone from your past. Choose the relationship. They get a short, researched survey.
They answer, honestly
About 3 minutes of ratings, a yes/no recommendation and an optional note. They sign in first, and can stay anonymous to viewers.
You approve or seal
AsktheX writes it into a story only you see first. Approve it and it becomes a book. Seal it and it’s kept, never shown.
Write one for someone
Say what you never said.
Write about someone from your past. They read it privately and decide: approve it and it starts their profile, ask you to change something, or decline it and it’s deleted. It’s never shown without their yes.
- You write it. The same short survey, plus a note in your own words.
- They read it privately. Only they can open it.
- They decide. Approve, ask for changes, or decline and delete.
Built on consent, not gossip.
AsktheX is not a place to look people up. There is no search, no directory, and nothing about you is shown without your yes.
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