References from your past
People change. stays.
Ask the people who were there.
Your former friends, coworkers, bosses and partners saw things no résumé or profile can show. AsktheX turns what they saw firsthand into a story you approve: lessons from your past that make your next chapter stronger, and a reference the people meeting you next can trust.
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Asked an ex-coworker
“What should my next team know about working with me?”
“She’ll take the hardest ticket on the board without being asked. Give her context early. She goes quiet when she’s guessing.”
Approved by Maya before anyone else could see it.
Every X sees a different you.
An X is anyone who knew you before: a former friend, coworker, employer, roommate, teammate or partner. Each relationship gets its own questions, the ones only that person can answer.
What should my next team know about working with me?
The answer a reference call never gives.“She’ll take the hardest ticket on the board without being asked. Give her context early. She goes quiet when she’s guessing.”
Demonstration only. These people and answers are fictional.
Every X becomes a book
Their answers, bound into a flip book.
Each X answers a short, researched survey about character and the role you shared, then adds a note in their own words. AsktheX writes it into a story. Approve it and it becomes a book you can share by private link.
Dani on Maya
Former friend · 2012–2021
Maya Kessler
- Former friend
- 2012–2021
- Approved March 2026
Three steps. No ambush.
You invite your X
Send a private link to someone from your past. Choose the relationship and the questions.
They answer, honestly
They confirm who they are by signing in, and can sign their name or stay anonymous to viewers.
You approve or seal
Approve it and it becomes a book. Seal it and it’s kept, never shown, unless you choose otherwise.
Write one for someone
Say what you never said.
Write about someone you used to know. They read it privately and decide: approve it and it starts their profile, ask you to change something, or decline it and it’s deleted. It’s never shown without their yes.
- You write it. A few honest answers and a memory.
- They read it privately. Only they can open it.
- They decide. Approve, ask for changes, or decline and delete.
Built on consent, not gossip.
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